Your View Of Me Is What?
Have you ever had the experience of someone just not clicking with you and you don’t understand why there is so much resistance? You are nice, friendly and courteous. Everyone else likes you and you hardly have any enemies.
So, what is this person’s issue?
There is a dynamic that occurs outside of our own realm of perception. In our head we “think” we are behaving a certain way or saying things that would build a positive relationship. However, in the backdoor of human experience, we have programs running.
These programs are designed to protect us, process what we think others may be judging about us, put us on the defensive, and create walls as barriers from potential pain and hurt.
Most of the time we are not aware and conscious of this activity going on within us and become blindsided or surprised when someone responds to us differently than we would like or expect.
There are ways to determine if you have these programs actively running and causing havoc in your relationships and communication. Once you put to practice the tips given in this article, you may see significant improvement in your personal and business relationships.
Ask yourself the following questions:
When you can align yourself as a high achiever who has a consistent positive attitude, know that there is room for improvement and strive to recognize traits that could be hazardous to relationships; you will transform your personal and professional life.
When you take the information gathered from asking others how they think about you and take the time to understand why they have shared this with you, you can implement a plan to shift yourself into high gear.
Once a month or every three months, dedicate time and energy into self-improvement not only for the sake of better communication but for your own growth and transformation.
It is not always easy to hear the truth from others; however, it is proven that when we don’t take it personally and take stock in what has been revealed, a whole new world can open up. The door of opportunity creates a new pathway that can lead to bigger and better experiences. Stay tuned for future articles that will explain in detail ways to facilitate active listening, the observer techniques and concrete steps for healthy communication.
